You’re reasonably attractive, definitely single, considerably intelligent and you have a great sense of humor BUT you still find yourself nervous about your belated entry to the dating scene and joining the hundreds of available men and women out there, all who are vying, like you, for the chance to find themselves in a satisfying and fulfilling relationship.
Maybe you’ve lived in a cloistered convent all your life or you’ve been Mrs. Tom Smith since the day you turned sixteen but somehow and someway, you are now about to try your hand at dating in the hopes of finding that elusive Mr. or Ms. Right. You want to be at your very best but you don’t know what to do.
Well, it’s just your luck because the dating guru is about to share with you a piece of her mind.
THERE’S NOTHING TO BE AFRAID OF
The first thing you have to do is understand that there’s nothing to be afraid of. Dating is just meeting someone else and getting to know each other. How can you have fun if you’re scared to death about making the wrong move? Chances are, the person you’re dating may also be hiding a well of insecurities behind his or her charming smile so that puts you both on the same boat, doesn’t it?
DON’T PRETEND TO BE SOMETHING YOU AREN’T
That’s just going to make things worse because you’re trying to make someone fall in love with someone else – someone who’s certainly not you! And even if you succeed in making your dating partner like the image you projected, what do you think would happen five dates after? What happens if your dating partner finds out the truth?
EXERT JUST THE RIGHT AMOUNT OF EFFORT
When dating, no matter if you’re the girl or the boy, the success of a date depends on the effort that BOTH of you exert. Don’t let the other person do all the talking. Be fair and take the initiative too, once in a while, in opening a topic until both of you are comfortable enough with each other.
But neither should you exert too much effort. Don’t trip on your own too feet as you try to impress your partner by being extra chivalrous or extra charming by smiling all night. You’d just come off as weird, you know. Simply put, be yourself. That’s really all it takes. But do remember to be your best self and not your worst!